"Skee-rew you. And other stuff."

Spoiler alert: This blog post is going to be ultra-feisty and borderline offensive. Skip if you're not in the mood. 

So, this morning I received a pm from a stranger on one of the colon cancer forum groups I belong to. The jest of his message went a little something like this:

"While I can appreciate that you're a strong, young survivor, your situation could have been avoided. Had you insisted on having a colonoscopy, your doctor might have been able to find the cancer when it was just stage 1 or 2 or maybe even pre-cancer. You really did yourself a disservice by letting it get to stage 4 at 40 years old."

ARE.YOU.SERIOUS?

My reply:

"Skee-rew you, P****61. You don't know jack about my situation or you would never have sent me such a ridiculous, insensitive message. Or maybe you would have because you feel it necessary to offer advice to people that you can hardly relate to. Having a friend of a friend with colon cancer does not make you an expert. What are you even doing on this forum? Don't you have better things to do? 

Your message, in general, is accurate but NOT FOR ME. I could have had a dozen colonoscopies during the 10 years before I was diagnosed with Stage IV colon cancer and still ended up here. The results wouldn't have shown a thing, not a single polyp.  So take your condescending advice and stick it!"

His response:

"My apologies."

Grrrr. I can't stand people that talk to me about stuff they really don't know much about. I shouldn't let it bother me, but it does. That's like me telling my mechanic how to fix a car. Redonk! I hope my snappy retort keeps him from sending a similar message to others. I really do.

I'll talk about my pet scan results and future plan of action after I calm down. 

Carry on,

Kristin